Compassionate Death

 According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, suicide remains one of the leading causes of death in the United States. In 2023, adults age 85 and older had the highest suicide rate at 22.7 per 100,000, followed by those ages 75 to 84 at 19.4 per 100,000. Combined, adults over 75 represent the highest-risk age group. Data on methods by age is limited in recent reports, but earlier research suggests that adults over 65 most often used firearms, with a much smaller percentage involving poisoning. While method matters for prevention discussions, it does not fully explain the deeper “why” behind these decisions. The National Institute of Mental Health also confirms that adults 75 and older have the highest suicide rates of any age group. However, neither the CDC nor NIMH distinguishes between suicides driven by mental health crises and those potentially influenced by terminal illness, cognitive decline, or end-of-life decision-making. Everything is grouped into broad cat...

 My mother and I have a standing agreement that sounds wonderfully straightforward: when we die, donate any usable organs, give our bodies to science, and cremate whatever remains. Clean, efficient, and helpful to others. At least, that’s the idea. In practice, it’s not nearly that simple. The Easy Part: Organ Donation Organ donation is the most straightforward piece of the plan. In most states, it’s as easy as checking a box on your driver’s license. That single decision can save or dramatically improve multiple lives. Because of the immediate need and life-saving potential, organ donation is typically prioritized when someone passes. The Complicated Part: Donating Your Body to Science Whole-body donation, on the other hand, is a very different story. While the concept feels noble, allowing medical students to learn or researchers to advance science using your body, the process itself is surprisingly complex and, in some cases, concerning. There are generally three types of...

 When planning ahead, most people think about wills, trusts, and medical decisions. But another important, and often overlooked, choice is what happens after death, specifically when it comes to donation. There are two main paths people consider: organ donation and body donation . Organ donation involves giving specific organs or tissues to help save or improve the lives of others. Through organizations like United Network for Organ Sharing , donated organs such as the heart, liver, kidneys, and lungs can be transplanted into patients in need. It’s a way to create immediate, life-saving impact, often helping multiple people. Body donation , on the other hand, means donating your entire body to science. Medical schools and research institutions use these donations for education, training, and advancement in medicine. Programs affiliated with organizations like the American Association of Tissue Banks help ensure donations are handled respectfully and ethically. While both opt...

This Resource List of Links is designed to be a living, growing collection of helpful information related to the Alzheimer's disease and Dementia journey, with a special focus on planning, decision-making, and end-of-life considerations. As new resources are discovered, recommended, or discussed, they will be added here so this page continues to evolve over time. The goal is to create a practical, go-to hub for families navigating difficult choices, not just medical information. If you’ve come across a resource that was helpful to you, please share it. Your contribution could make a meaningful difference for someone else facing similar decisions. Whole-Body Donation MedCure https://medcure.org/ Whole Body Donation Provider Limited to Nevada, Florida, Missouri, and Oregon Science Care https://www.sciencecare.com/ Body Donation to Science Provider Limited to all US States except: AK, AR, HI, ME, MN, MT, NJ, NM, ND, and OK United Tissue Network https://unitedtissue.org/ Whole Body D...

 When most people think about Alzheimer's disease or Dementia , they think about memory loss, confusion, and the slow progression of the disease. That’s not what this blog is about. There are already countless resources explaining symptoms, stages, and caregiving techniques. Those are important. But they only tell part of the story. This space is for something else entirely. This Is About the Hard Choices This blog is about the decisions that don’t come with clear answers. The ones that sit quietly in the background until suddenly, they don’t. When is it no longer safe for someone to live alone? When do you take away the car keys? When do you step in and take over finances? When does care at home stop being enough? When do you consider hospice? What does “quality of life” really mean? And perhaps the hardest question of all: If I ever reach that point… what would I want? Late-Stage Realities In the later stages of these diseases, the conversation chan...